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The Devils in Marriage: How to Guard Your Sacred Union Against Modern Threats

There is a saying among the devout—one I heard in my early days of marriage—that nothing enrages the devil quite like a strong, loving matrimony. At the time, I dismissed it as mere religious rhetoric. But years later, after witnessing the wreckage of countless unions—some shattered by violence, others eroded by slow neglect—I’ve come to believe there is truth in those words. Marriage is under siege, not by some supernatural force, but by very human weaknesses: ignorance, temptation, and the failure to adapt.   The Illusion of Preparedness Few enter marriage truly understanding its trials. This isn’t due to negligence, but to the simple fact that experience cannot be borrowed . As Tupac once lamented, " Nobody knows my pain; they only see my struggle. " The same applies to marriage. The sleepless nights spent reconciling budgets, the quiet resentment over unmet expectations, the suffocating weight of monogamy—these are battles one cannot fully grasp until they are fought....

Monogamy vs. Polygamy: The Paradox of Responsibility in Modern Relationships

The great cultural collision of our age has brought many traditions into conflict, but few debates reveal as much about a society's values as the tension between monogamy and polygamy. While Western modernity often dismisses polygamy as a relic of "backward" cultures, a closer examination reveals an uncomfortable truth: the monogamous ideal, as practiced today, frequently fails in its central promise of fostering responsible, committed relationships. What emerges instead is a paradox—a system meant to channel desire into stable unions that often drives it underground into realms of secrecy and exploitation.   The Western model of monogamy arrived in Africa and other colonized regions wrapped in the language of morality and progress, yet its track record tells a different story. Walk along the beaches of Mombasa or Dakar, and you will find European tourists—many wearing wedding rings—negotiating prices with local sex workers. These are not anomalies but symptoms of a syste...

Parents or Children: Who Truly Owes the Other?

From childhood, we’re taught that children owe their parents a lifelong debt—for food, shelter, education, and love. This belief is so ingrained that many spend their lives trying to "repay" their parents. But this ignores a fundamental truth: children never asked to be born. The decision to bring a child into the world rests solely with parents, families, and society. If anything, it is parents who owe their children—not the other way around. This article challenges the notion of filial obligation by examining: The Unilateral Decision of Birth Parental Responsibility vs. Favors The Unhealthy Reality of Human Existence Part 1: The Choice to Bring a Child Into the World 1. No Child Consents to Birth Biological Fact: Conception and birth are decisions made by parents, whether intentional (planned pregnancy) or unintentional (rape, failed contraception). Social Pressures: Families often pressure couples to have children; societies outlaw abortion, removing bodily autonomy. Exam...

Being a Mom

I vividly remember having problems with my mom during my teenage years. I was outgoing and loved all the fun that came with it. Unfortunately, my mom, very bold in character and a staunch believer, was always creating impediments to my crazy lifestyle back then.   She ensured that I attended our old Baptist church every Sunday and sat in its front row beside my siblings. I was not too fond of her domineering character over me. Moreover, she ensured that I was acquainted with many members of our congregation, who often helped her check on me and my character. That is why she always knew where and what I was doing. She only slept once I was back from the late-night parties. We quarreled a lot. Today, I consider all these cherished memories, which I greatly thank her for creating with me. Ability to worry An African proverb says, “the one who loves you is the one that fights you.” I came across it while reading African literature some years ago. I never understood it back then, b...